1. Cut the harsh self-judgement
I’ve been really excessively self judgy lately. I realized I started to make my failures define me, and forgot to look at how far I’ve come along with all the other accomplishments I’ve achieved. But it’s not just that, I find myself self pitying my self too every now and then. I make all my past experiences reasons why I am struggling now, when clearly that is not the case! How I’m choosing to react now is what is causing me to struggle.
2. Complain less by 99.9% , no by 100% less
Life gets hard and complaining my way through it is not working. I usually complain and still get what I need to get done, but the time and anger I spent complaining is not worth it. I feel like if so much of my conversation with someone is consisted of me complaining, that’s not much of a conversation at all. I really value having good conversations with someone, and I think complaining does not fall under the category of a “good conversation”.
3. Accept criticism bravely & don’t take unthought out offensive comments TOO harshly
I’m pretty sucky when it comes to taking criticism. I usually get stuck between the get offended, get defensive, or not care range. If I can eventually accept criticism bravely, I think that’s the most ideal way of taking criticism. Take the bull by the horns, accept that I am not good or #1 or whatever in anything! Then there is the whole getting way too offended by somethings people say. Heck, a lot of people don’t think before they talk, I am defiantly usually guilty of that. That means sometimes mean things come out of people’s mouths. I just have to wrap my head around the fact that they either did not word that correctly, or they are having a bad day. But then again, I will have a line set of where the offensive comments becomes a little too much.
Hmm.. what if I started doing these little what to call them… self-bettering / defining my morals things in small chunks throughout the next few months. That’ll be an easy way to keep up with school, practice, social life, and my self life! I seriously gotta find a good way to balance all of it, I’m really sucky at that.